When they don’t swipe right because of my skin…
Dating can be difficult enough, but it can be even harder when living with psoriasis. Check out these answers to some of the many questions you may have.
It’s Friday night and you’re out with some of your single friends celebrating the end of a long work week, looking for some romance. And let’s be real – it’s 2016, so searching a weekend date means searching your phone. So you lift up your pocket matchmaker and open a mobile dating app to find locals looking for love.
Swipe Left (aka “Noooo thank you”)
Swipe Right (aka “Yes, please.”)
You scour through the potentials as if it were a game, knowing that someone is likely “swiping” for you at that very moment. But what if they don’t swipe right? You try not to be self-conscious, but in your mind, you think it may be because of your psoriasis.
Let’s back up for a second: Dating can be tough, with or without psoriasis. It’s hard enough to find that “special someone,” but a skin condition the can make the search increasingly difficult. In fact, 35% of people living with psoriasis limit dating or intimate interactions because of their condition.1
Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match…
If the digital stars are aligned and your dating app finds you a match, your psoriasis will most likely come up at some point, but not immediately. Whether we like it or not, these apps are visual by nature – it all starts with a photo, and since you are unlikely to show your affected skin (unless of course you want, which is fine!) you should be prepared with some knowledge. Here are some questions that your potential match may ask that you should know the answers to:
Ummmm, no. The first thing that you and your potential date should know is that psoriasis is an autoimmune disease and is not communicable. Psoriasis is caused by a combination of genetic factors and environmental triggers – none of which can be passed on through touching.2
Always an odd question to ask, and it’s asked more often than not during these textual interactions. Short answer: Yes, but don’t. They can often be itchy3 and we would rather not aggravate it, but the rest of your body is up for grabs! Just kidding.
Again, an odd question… but OK. Psoriasis has nothing to do with poor hygiene and is caused by two factors: genes and environmental triggers such as infection, stress or exposure to a particular stimulus.4 These factors cause the immune system to send signals to increase the growth of skin cells, thus causing them to pile up to form plaques.5
YOU are your best match
Whether your match is made in digital heaven or lasts less than five texts, there are some great things to learn from your experience. The most important is to be comfortable in your own skin and skin condition. Confidence is attractive, so don’t be afraid to put yourself out there for all of the dating world. Also, have fun with it! You are allowed to push the boundaries a little bit:
Even if mobile dating isn’t your thing, there are some other great resources within the psoriasis community that you can use if you are interested. No matter what, you should feel empowered to get out there - you’re a great catch!